Sidewalk Ghosts / Interview 426: The Dream Catchers

I truly believe that we should follow our dreams as a people… as a human race, and do things that make us happy. But take into consideration everyone else: Family, friends, strangers, the world around you. Selfishness is definitely a thing of the past. We all need to look to the future. There’s gonna be more people, more crowded, more to deal with. It’s only going to get harder and harder if we don’t see each other as human beings and equals. That’s what I think.” —Shawn

I am honored today. Not by the accolades of any crowd. Nor rewarded any acknowledgement for efforts, or even pumped up at any event. My honor this day is indeed beyond myself and for this I will be ever enlightened.

It all began yesterday through a chance meeting with Suzi– one of the fine art students at Ohio State. Suzi is not the traditional enrollee you would expect at a University the scale of OSU. On a campus of 65,000 (rich in diversity), the hopeful futures of many a young man and woman is shaped and formed. From science to art, philosophy to mathematics, it is all here. Youthful minds of times ahead converse and grow, and Suzi is absolutely in her element.

She, her husband (you’ll get to know him in a moment), fellow OSU student Kaylin and I are at breakfast when Kaylin asks, “What class do you teach?” Suzi smiles, “I get that all the time… I’m and undergraduate,” she glowingly replies.

IMG_0005I could write a book on Suzi. Her life experience alone is the equivalent of any masters program and she has the credentials to prove it. But the format of this blog is far too limiting to fully introduce you to the greatness of Suzi. So I’ll just summarize. Suzi has special depth. Exuberance if you will. She is a survivor, a fantastic artist, a loving wife and successful mother… a person, simply put, with the greatest of integrity, true spirit of love and peculiar imagination. Just that kind of person who, at first meeting, melts your heart as she focus not on herself, but refreshingly, asks endless questions of who are you. Yes, Suzi is the real deal, and in knowing her, you realize that is possible to find the courage is to make all your dreams come true.

But she is not a lone traveler in her course. For walking with her is a good husband, children and close friends. All of whom stand as testament to the power of one. A people, who individually, inspire us to (as overused as the term may be) “Follow our Dreams.”

Shawn (Suzi’s husband) is his name. Large in stature, he is a gentle giant. His warmth of character is engaging and his hospitality is endearing. Suzi later tells me, “25 years and I still love this guy to death.” I get it, for after spending only a few short hours with him his influence is forever engraved on my heart. Impressions that inspire me to look deep into my own reasoning for what I do and discussion points that I am certain will refresh my internal dialogue in navigating this next chapter of my life.

Bcam_MVI_0001.MOV.Still001Credit where credit is due, Shawn stands not by himself. Greatly appreciated, I’ve been invited to break bread with not only he and Suzi, but also with his closest of friends, Brian and Pat. Both men, who like him, have courageously left the financial security of employment to partner in building a business of their own.

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Some might criticize irresponsibility, stating that it is an unstable proposition for three men (all of whom are supporting families) to undertake such challenge during the latter part of their careers. To add to the matter, the risk in starting up a rurally located enterprise during the closing part of painful recession might be seen as throwing caution to the wind.

This afternoon I am graced to visit the workplace of these three remarkable, and resourceful men as they share their motivations. Here is what they have to say.

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Shawn:
“If you can seek out your independence… seek hard.

I truly believe that we should follow our dreams as a people… as a human race, and do things that make us happy. But take into consideration everyone else: Family, friends, strangers, the world around you. Selfishness is definitely a thing of the past. We all need to look to the future. There’s gonna be more people, more crowded, more to deal with. It’s only going to get harder and harder if we don’t see each other as human beings and equals. That’s what I think.”

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Brian
“Life is precious.

I think everybody just needs to slow down. Learn how to live with family, life… and love– Short and sweet, but very important. We’ve gotten away from family time as a whole.”

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Pat
“Listen…Pay more attention.”

“To what?” I ask.

“Everything… to what we are doing in general. Using all the resources and not putting anything back. I don’t know the answer.”

“I think that is the answer,” I add.

We work with our hands,” Shawn expresses. “We are craftsmen and we are proud of what we do.”

Bryan picks it up. “Makes for a happy environment.”

Shawn: We catch ourselves singing while we work. Don’t take that the wrong way. We can’t sing. We’re living the dream… to do what you love and have fun while your doing it.”

All three grow in laughter, “life is good… life is good!”

Shawn: “It’s the outside world that is almost bleak now. We are looking out, saying, man everything could be way… way better.”

Pat: “Who else gets to work with their best friends?

Shawn: It has brought us together…”

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Brian: “’…and it’s also taught us our trade is, obviously a dying trade, but that our trade can be fun again. To make a product and then stand back and say, ‘wow, this really looks nice!’ I want everybody to see it. Because it was done by our timeline, by our standards… It makes a big difference… A big difference in being happy in what you are doing.’”

All sounds great. But many of us are deep into our life commitments. So I have to ask

“How do you make the break?”

Shawn takes the lead in responding. “You throw the oars in the water and you rock the boat.”

Brian (In unison with all): “Follow your dreams.”

Brian (solo): “Go big or go home.”

Shawn (humbly): “Don’t be scared.”

Pat (reflective): “… and don’t wait too long.”

Shawn elaborates, “If you wait till your ready… you’ll never do it.”

“How do you know when you are ready?” I question.

They all light with laughter. “You don’t.”

Shawn: “That’s why you can’t wait.”

Pat gives final council, “well, you’ve obviously got to know what you are doing to start with. Once that happens, you’re never going to learn the other half of it until you do it.”

Brian: “The biggest thing to knowing when you are ready is, if you are working for the man and you are constantly pointing out his pitfalls and things that you think would make it go so much better…”

Shawn adds to what Brian saying (as Brian nods in agreement). “…and not so much for yourself, but for the whole company. Not just an independent thought, but man! This could be so much better! So much more efficient; and, everyone would be so much happier. Happiness goes a long way.”

“More than money,” I ask.

“No doubt about it!” they all agree.

Pat: “Especially since we have more of that than money.” They warm up again.

Suzi, Shawn, Pat, Brian. Thank you for inviting me into you life today. I am a better person for it.

May all your dreams come true my sweet new friends.    MVI_0185.MOV.Still003

Sidewalk Ghosts / Interview 423: “Be A Decent Human Being”

I’d probably have to say to take the world for everything that it is” —Lee

 

Sidewalk Ghosts / Interview 422: “Ripped Off A Guys Bumper”

‘”I’d say, ‘take every minute for granted… you never know what’s gonna happen…’” —Toby

Sidewalk Ghosts / Interview 419: “We’re All A Family and We Need To Act Like It”

“If we all just looked ahead…”  —Alethea

Sidewalk Ghosts / Interview 409: “If The Answer Is Because… Then It Is Probably Not The Best Answer”

“I hate to say we are kind of leaning more towards consumerism. Consuming things that are not necessary, wasting things. I think that at some point we will realize…” —Brandon

Sidewalk Ghosts / Interview 400: "A Good Four Letter Word"

“I love when I see these things on television and they show these students that go out on boats, and their like, Oh, we wanted to see where all this stuff is that goes in the ocean…”  —Jaymie

Sidewalk Ghosts / Interview 395: Flavio and Lucy (Part One)

“We all need to lean, we need to connect our senses, our brain, our body and our spirit more together” –Flavio

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 377: An Oasis We Call Quartzsite

a-show-771230Last week a good friend (photographer and creative director BJ) and I visited Quartzsite, Arizona; home of the largest open-air collectible gem and RV show in the nation. Every January over one million people, from all parts of the country, fall upon this sleepy little desert town, magically transforming it into a bustling oasis of migratory residents and daily visitors.

qrig2Retired snowbirds harbor in state of the art motorhomes, off the grid families relax as they set-up shops of every kind; while top-notch gem traders gather to exchange product and experience. To call the gathering eclectic is a bold understatement, and for certain, Quartzsite is not merely a swap meet. It is an abstract and morphing city. An ever-changing cultural destination, one that now having met many of its citizens, has left an indelible impression on both my mind and heart.

Outside the big tent at the Quartzsite, Az. RV show, 2013.For within its carnival like atmosphere can be proven that diversity is the greatest key to a uniting power that lies within all of us. A power that if harnessed allows us to work together in finding common ground within our own communities.

hundreds threeThe interviews of Project-365 awakened us to see, and hear, many insights that were undeniable in their uniting influence. The hundreds we met clearly communicated the positive effect of one individual gesture, one expressed moment or even the simplest sincere act of appreciation can carry.

There has never been a time in history where we are individually empowered the way we are now. Technology has opened the floodgates of information and connectivity, and as long as we have the right to use it without restriction, we have great ability to facilitate positive actions.

This global collaboration of the diverse is here because of WordPress, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube and whatever other social and media sources we can use. I am personally grateful for their creation, for without them, Operation-365 and its mission would not exist. But please, consider them the messenger and not the destination as we debark on the O-365 blogumentary (beginning full swing in the next few days).

As the daily interviews and episodes are published I ask that we take the time to look past the delivery method in activating ourselves as Ambassadors within our spheres. In doing so, please take the time to look upon the world around you. Get to know your neighbors and take pause to consider the deeper motivations as to why others act as they do.

This is the beauty of meeting the strangers we now call friends. It is through listening to their words that we may come to know them, the world around us and maybe even ourselves a little better.

With this, a challenge is placed. One that is both entertaining and enlightening. That as we examine the ways we interact with one another, that we might find ways to contribute to our communities. Together, who knows what bridges we can build?

The vast diversity of Quartzsite has proven this thesis plausible. For if over one million strangers crammed into a little town of tents and motorhomes can look upon each other with compassion and respect. Isolated in the middle of the desert as they reach out to each other. Then perhaps whatever they are doing is something worthy of modeling in our own lives.

New friends of Quartzsite… thanks for allowing me to share your words with the world. Your council is lucid and your community is vibrant. Your diverse and loving acceptance has uplifted us all and the dignity you show for one another is an example to be followed.

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Welcome to O-365 blogumentary my friends,

Richard

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 340: “Taco Bell Serves No Fish… We Won’t Hold That Against Them”

Trapped I am not as I sit poolside with one of the most active minds I’ve encountered in a very long time, my new friend, horror filmmaker and reality show editor John.

For a few hours we chat, including a short run to the Taco Bell border for midnight snacks. And in this time I get a glimpse into the brain of an exceptionally talented and environmentally aware dude. One, who through colors the likes of 70mm cinema, captivates, amuses and informs.

There are only few words compelling enough to describe John, and quick, honest and spontaneous they would be. And mixed with a bit of edgy humor John give’s us audience in working to find advice to share.

With constant body movement John struggles to figure out appropriate thoughts to pass forward. “Wow…! I don’t know… what kind of advice would I have for the world…? I don’t know… I probably would just tell some jokes,” he searches deeper.

“’Like… if I were to council the world…? he grins.

“’…Well you can only do so much… It’s like in ‘King Of The Hill…’ the cartoon. There was something at one point… I can’t remember the exact quote, but it starts like this… ‘With you… yourself… living the best you can, or something like that.’

Just like with you… yourself… living the best you can… or being the best you can… whatever. Like he was saying (referring back to the King Of The Hill episode), It starts on a person level… person to person… just like if people were doing that… I don’t know…? We’re all in this together.

Is it stupid to tell other people what to do? That’s dumb! That’s all bullshit… run your own race… against yourself… not against everyone else… I’m going to do my own thing… I’m gonna do it good… and the people around me… the things around me will work out. Tell them something like that.’” John proposes with an amendment.

“You look back to the declaration of independence… People stood up for their thing. That’s the thing here. It’s important for everyone to cut the bullshit and to just go back and clarify.

Everyone wants to get in everyone business… everyone is so concerned and worried about everything else… All this nervousness and agitation… It just turns into anger and other shit like that. It just seems that if the world would chill out, and that’s so much easier said than done, it would be a better place. The world does not work like that… but it would be so cool if it did.”

We turn to the future, and again, John uses a bridge of a half-truth / half-joke to direct our discussion to weightier issues.

“Man, this is gonna sound… like… selfish…” he admits. “…I really hope that all the fisheries of the world remain… because I love seafood.”

We dive into a shared concern regarding the state of the oceans, it’s environment and of the delicate balance that has been compromised by so many Human’s who have so blatantly ignored their stewardship in respecting the earth. “What is happening is like a domino effect,” John contends in leading me to telegraph a linked question.

“Are the fish going to be here?” I ask.

John speedily replies, “I don’t know… it’s weird… the real numbers are in question. How much is actually being fished? The gaps between the generations of the fish, the weather and other natural stuff can mess that stuff up.

I don’t know anything… everything that I know comes from TV or the Internet, what the f*** do I know!

You can ponder this stuff… but it is more fascinating that anything else..

…I know I’m really off topic.”

What John does not fully discuss is his state of origin, Maine, a fishing center for much of the seafood we so regularly consume. And from this fact, it is a simple calculation to figure that John knows a lot more than he wants us to know.

He reflects to friends he has in the fishing industry. “People go out and make their living in the ocean… think about that. We flash back… Have you ever thought about whaling?”

Now, his pointing at the whaling industry of past is in no way an endorsement of its greed and inhumanity of days past; or any kind of encouragement to the illegal ships that still trawl the waters in quest of greed drawn blood. Rather it is a shocking jumping off point to shift our conversation towards the importance of conservation and our role in respecting the environment through protecting its limited resources. And with no issue unturned, we speak of topics ranging from deforestation to the general misuse of ocean, land and animal.

“Everyone goes around saying, I’ve got it all figured out… We have it all figured out… Everyone has it all figured out and they don’t know shit…” John retorts.

…I don’t know…? Back in the day… think of what was around… and compare it to now… It would be like… We’d look at all that was there and say, damn!”

John redirects away from himself again, “These days everything I know comes from Netflix documentaries.

I have it all figured out… No, I don’t have it all figured out… Sometimes I do… and sometimes I don’t. But, one thing I know for sure… is we have to take care of our stuff… and nature is no different.

We have to keep moving, but we have to be reasonable… logical.

And if we ever think we have it figured out… we need to realize one thing…we don’t!”

The midnight hour is approaching, and even though John and I have the energy to continue our chat well into the wee hours, responsibility takes hold… well almost, for we have one last topic to address, the Taco Bell drive through menu.

John asks, “What are you going to order?”

My response, true to the lesson learned tonight, “I don’t know?”

Talk tomorrow friends!