SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 181: “Ma Num A Na!”

What do the Muppets and Haman of the Old Testament have in common…?

Answer… The Jewish holiday Purim.

“How can that be, I’ve read The Book of Esther, and there a not puppets written of.”

Well leave it to the minds of two very creative Rabbi’s, an enthusiastic congregation and the talents of puppeteer Renee (a close family friend of mine) and you have a fun-filled night of family and worship at Shomrei Torah Synagogue where I find myself, along with my daughter (care of Renee’s invitation) to take part in a Purim celebration.

The service is addictively entertaining, and with Kermit the Frog, Miss Piggy and The Cookie Monster leading center stage in telling the story of The Book of Esther, all in attendance are enthralled.

The plot goes like this, Esther belonged to God’s special people, the Jews. Esther and many other Jews lived in the land called Persia. Persia was a long way from their own land.

The king of Persia was angry with the queen and he sent her away. Then he searched for another wife who would be the new queen. He chose Esther.

One of the king’s chief officials, called Haman, hated the Jews and he plotted to destroy them. But Esther’s uncle Mordecai asked Esther to speak to the king to save the Jews. Although Esther was the queen, Mordecai was asking her to do a dangerous thing. People could not go to see the king if he had not invited them. But Esther did what Mordecai asked. The king was pleased with her and listened to her. The king gave to the evil Haman the punishment that Haman had wanted to give to the Jews.

The book of Esther does not mention the name of God. This is strange for a book that is in the Bible. Sometimes God seems to be silent. We might even think that he does not care about us. The writer of the book of Esther probably wanted his readers to realize that God is always in control. Although we cannot see God, he is always doing things in the world. Nobody can stop his plans. The events in the book of Esther show us that God is in control.”

“God is always in control,” a prefect background to capture the essence of today’s friend, the voice of Miss Piggy in this evening’s performance, the absolutely charming Linda.

As the Synagogue clears we grab a bench to sit and chat. Linda has a comfort about her and it makes sense that her light-hearted nature aided her in being part of the entertainment this evening. If you have ever performed you know it takes a certain letting go of mind and thought. The closest reference I can make is it’s like living in the moment, without obsession on the perceptions of others.

Linda speaks of her mind-set, “’My mother used to tell me, ‘Don’t worry until you have to.’”

Worry is a word that Linda does not possess in her vocabulary and it is evident in the ease of her countenance and the bond that she has with the congregation. In being with her, I am a passenger in her rapport with all those who she associates with, and it is apparent that Linda’s perspective is valued by all those who know her; now including myself.

Linda is full of hope and optimism, a difficult thing to have in these modern times.

“I see a time where the world will be at peace and the planet will survive. A world where people are going to be more tolerant of one another,” she proposes.

Her advice is simple, “Put yourself in the other person’s situation before you judge them, and always give all the benefit of the doubt.”

Not much else can I write; Linda has wrapped it up very well, wouldn’t you say.

Oh how about this, in tribute to our Muppet Friends…  “Ma Num A Na!”

Shameless Plug:
Linda is a specialist travel agent; her forte cruises. If the high seas are for you, here is her link: www.tickettocruise.com

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 180: “Don’t Shop – Adopt”

A building side reading “Home of Pet Adoption Fund,” grabs my eyes as I drive an industrial area in-route to Home Depot to pick up cleaning solution for the urine my dogs have graced my home carpets with. Got to love them, it’s their house too, right?

And with pets on my mind, stopping to say hello just seems like the right thing to do. I flip a U-turn, and to the barks of welcoming canine, manage to squeeze into one of the last two remaining parking slips.

To the office I go, where again, I am greeted by the voice of more four-legged friends, all of who are asking for my attention. Looking at the clock I realize it’s 4:45pm, the room is full of adopting families and doors close at 5:00pm, it feels as if I have just ingratiated myself to a party without an invitation.

The room full of dog lovers and volunteers are all scurrying to feed, water and board countless dogs for an evenings rest, so much so that it is difficult to get a word in edgeways.

No one is rude, just very busy. I do my best to tell of 365, but every time I open my mouth, my introduction is muffled by two small guests in cages to my right; looks like I’m being upstaged, but in the end, and with ten minutes left until quitting time, the hard-working and dog loving Megan, shares a moment or two with us.

Our talk is very brief, but I later do a little on-line research and find out what really makes this place tick, and Megan is at the front of the quest in finding loving homes for the many homeless animals that she so apparently loves.

It appears that Megan gives countless volunteer hours of her life to helping place the pets that fill the cages, and runs, of Pet Adoption Fund, the largest non-profit, no-kill animal rescue organization in Southern California.

Animals that have been rescued and now sheltered until they find loving permanent homes, a huge task; and one that is staffed primarily by volunteers. Existing solely on donations the facility houses around 175 dogs and 75 cats, of all sizes, ages and breeds.

Since 1983, Pet Adoption Fund has cared for, rehabilitated, and found responsible and happy homes for thousands of pets, never rejecting the old, the disabled, or the socially challenged. And with a no-kill policy they are committed to providing shelter and care to all deserving yet less fortunate animals, many of whom may never get a second chance at a loving home.

As Megan and I have our brief chat, we are joined be other volunteers who are giving of their time to walk and play with the animals who are still looking to be adopted.

I get what they are doing; both of my dogs are rescued. And knowing there are so many sweet animals who need a home, I’ll never buy a pet again.

Like I said, Megan is hurried, the day has ended, and she is on her way to urgent care (seems she is coming down with what she thinks is strep throat). But although ill, Megan beams, “Always try to look at your glass a half full.”

“We have to think positive,” she smiles.

She is sick; dogs are barking to the left and to the right, and now she has found herself in front of the camera. If that is not looking at the glass half full, I don’t know what is.

“We need to take better care of our planet,” Megan expounds. I’m hoping we keep hearing this sentiment; it is one that I am always happy to listen too and to write of.

“I still see a lot of people littering and it drives me crazy. We need to be cleaner, it’s not that hard to pick up after ourselves and to recycle more. It would be great to one day see everyone driving more electric cars, even though they have their own environmental issues. Nothing is perfect, but we at least need to make better choices.”

The last of the Pet Adoption Fund residents have settled into their sleeping quarters and with a pleasant voice, Megan concludes her comments with this; “Don’t shop, adopt.”

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 179: Listen and Not Look

It is 8:00pm on a very chilly and foggy weeknight, the Promenade is buzzing with people of character and great diversity. From street performers to locals to tourists the boulevard is just beginning to energize in readying itself for the nights progression.

And after 178 days of wandering for strangers I see it as a heaven-sent change of pace to be circulating in a highly bustling area, The Third Street Promenade, a Santa Monica central point for shopping and dining.

Even though the evening air is brisk and filled with the moisture of coastal dew, the atmosphere is warmed by the ebbing movement of man and sound; so when from amidst the wandering chaos appears to me a voice, “Sir, are you a registered voter?” I halt my quest for stranger in opening a 365 hand of friendship to an unknown solicitor as he works to acquire signatures to support upcoming voting initiatives. A very tough thing to do in the 2012’s. Times where so many of us are continually bombarded with unrequested sales calls, spam and the ongoing assault of door knocks and excuse me’s. Plus, in my own journeys I have developed a soft spot for anyone who has the courage to reach out to strangers with any legitimate request.

“What’s your name?” I ask as I am brought up to speed on issues ranging from the FDA to education to the environment.

“Josh,” my new friend answers.

He and I decide to grab a seat by a nearby planter to review the list of ballot items he has on his clipboard, as well as engage in a conversation of life and personal histories.

Josh has had a hard life… felony convictions, alcoholism and past of pain and violence. His perspective is dark, but as he speaks the importance of family and of protecting the children rises to the top of his priorities.

“We have to protect our kids,” Josh boldly postures. He has a zero tolerance rule when it comes to protecting the innocence and virtue of the child. Again boldly and obviously from the heart, “I advise us all to be vigilantes against child molesters.”

Josh and I speak of recovery from addiction and the pain of overcoming its evil grasps. “I’ve seen demons,” he tells me. Words that I’ve heard often from many of my 365 friends who are in the depths of addictions or on the path to recovery.

I ask Josh if he has any words of wisdom for us. “Can I answer that with a question?” he requests.

“This is your time Josh, you can answer any way you like,” I inform.

He advises us to consider, “If you had three wishes, what would they be?”

“Do you want to hear mine?” says Josh.

And his answer is peacefully dark.  Peacefully Dark? That’s a very strange set of words to link… “I know. But they truly describe the safe feeling that emits from Josh.”

Yet, I am saddened by his dreams, “I’d like to know if there is a way to die a three-way death. A death of not only my body, but a death of my spirit and soul. I don’t trust that I’m going to heaven, and I don’t even believe in heaven or hell. I believe we have a Creator, but no one really knows what will happen when we die… and I don’t want to be part of if.”

Now, I have no idea of the pains Josh has lived through, nor do I judge him for his outlook. Whatever has brought him to this place in life is not mine to carry. What is important is to do whatever I can to understand him as a person.

My perspective on the thought of where we go after death? I have hope for where we are going and nothing in this life happens for naught. Be it tragic, or be it glorious… all experiences in some way or another can bring us light and move us forward.

We have spoken often of tolerance and compassion, and of learning to accept each other for who we are and to do what we can to pass it on.

I tell Josh of some of my past dark times. Times that were not quite as deep as Josh’s history, but dark enough to at least help us to see a little commonality.

“I’ve had times that I’ve felt similar to you, but I promise if you hang on, a light will appear,” I reveal to Josh, and now you know that too.

I cannot say for certain that we wholly agreed, but non-the-less, Josh and I find a union in a momentary voice of friendship.

Josh, stretches his shirt, “This is my family; my grandson David, my step daughter Ester, my daughter Anna and sons Elijah and Erik.”

The picture becomes clearer. True… Josh has led a difficult life, but in his soberness of thought for the children and through his uncertainty of what is to come after this life, I see a man who is searching for a better world and questioning his own place in it.

Apparently the world has hit Josh hard in some way. However, he is here. Raising children, sober and doing the best he can to support them.

Can any of us who have not walked in the footsteps of Josh accurately say how we would cope in a life after prison and addiction?

This is a cruel world at times. The news shows that to us every day. In the media and life we witness some of the most hideous atrocities. But at the end of the day, we also see many great acts of kindness and growth in humanity.

My take away from meeting Josh… He has humanity and is a survivor with a purpose… and that purpose is his children.

Any man who proudly bears the names of his kids on a tee-shirt and hold the strongest concern for their future is good in my book.

Per his hope for what is to come… Josh, we wish you a life full of peace and may the darkness dissipate.

Josh is a provider, eight bucks a signature… I sign them all.

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 178: The Village of Eclecticia

There is land in the center of the City of Angels and in it thrives a small tribe of the greatest diversity. There are but only three gates into its core and surrounding its inhabitants only a small wall protects it from the hustle of a rushing populous of over twelve million.

In it exists an artful people of magical accord, a people who all engage in a unified voice of acceptance and harmonized difference. A stunning culture that everyday celebrates the union of difference and shares an admiration for life’s trials.

Before it flows the concrete river of Etawanda, and life travelers pausing at its banks enter by invitation in escaping a hardened shoreline. Weary City of Angels citizens pass under its winged horse of steel that stands in flight as a crest to welcome all passing under the main gateway on its Eastern boarder.

A silent beat of a drum drives the heart of this hidden providence, protecting it from the ravages of pessimism and divides of culture ramped throughout the metropolis that engulfs it.

Its humble fortifications of concrete and wrought iron require no army to protect all who thrive within its walls. And never will be seen a king entering or emerging from its gates.

Those who visit its central court of stage are entertained to a feast of symphonic individuality and are captured by the silent rhythm of a modulating pulse of pop culture. And those who journey its cityscape or travel through its countryside of spray can color are infected by a heartbeat that cannot be ignored.

Welcome to the Village of Eclectia, and in the citizens of Das Bauhaus.

In traveling its dwellings I meet six of its inhabitants, and of each I ask the 365 questions.
Q1: What words of wisdom, advice or council do you have for my 365 followers?
Q2: Looking towards the future, what predictions do you have, or wishes you would like to share?

Citizen Will:
Q1: The three “P”s: Persistence, Promotion and Plugging.
Q2: There’s going to be WWIII in the next 10 years. The banks have taken over everything. It’s kind of’ like a Ponzi scheme that will escalate into war; it’s going to be a different kind of war, like a cyber-war.”

Citizen Joseph:
Q1: Think globally… Act locally. We are much more likely to have a sustainable result from 100 people giving 5% rather than 5 people giving 100%.
Q2: We can’t accurately predict exactly what will happen. But I can say the pace is getting too rapid. Technology and the Internet was unheard of 20 years ago, we have to be careful to not lose ourselves in it. I’m also concerned about over-population and the way we are educated on a global perspective. I think it is very important to educate people in third-world world countries, especially the women. And we need to embrace each other’s faiths and differences and agree to disagree.

Citizen Michael:
Q1: Step back from your life and look at the things that are of value to you, and realize whether or not, if you are making those things more prominent, or if you are letting the obstacles of the world deny you from expanding them.
Q2: Our species is at a crossroads, and it depends on us as to which way we go. Do we continue the trend of living our life with fear, or do we look beyond that and see the world with love rather than fear?

Citizen Mark:
Q1: There are two kinds of problems; those you can do something about, and those you cannot do anything about. Face the consequences, don’t quibble, just do it, and never take anything at face value.
Q2: 2025? It will be like either being back in the 1850s, or forward in the 2050s.

Citizen Connor:
Q1: Embrace the paradigm shift. The times are exciting, the energy is shifting and people know it. The antennas are picking it up and you can feel it. The possibilities are endless.
Q2: Continued liberation of everything, and there will be more examples of disclosure. There will be a giant boost in confidence and more and more people ready to accept the top being popped-off to a higher level of consciousness.

Citizen Harmony (daughter of landlord Don):
Q1: Make it new and make it fresh; a new perspective on every day.
Q2: I perceive the divide will be extreme. The trajectory I see is: the divides will collide and then they will rebuild.

Fascinating as all the citizens of city Das Bauhaus are, there are two topics that deeply touch my heart.

Harmony speaks of womanhood and the way modern culture, the media and fashion trends have worked to degrade how women are viewed, act and are treated in society, and how the perception of womanhood is skewed towards impossible standards. Having a daughter myself, the conversation is deep in my concerns in regards to the kind of world she will grow up in.

Harmony prompts us to accountability in pondering our perspectives, and responsibilities, as to how we respect women and ourselves.

She hopes for a future where women are looked upon with more dignity for who they are, not the way the media, fashion trends, and the misconceptions of the feminine role tell them how they should look, act or feel.

Joseph shares a similar point in his concern for women in third-world countries, but that is not why I am featuring him. My purpose in speaking of him is a chase for good Karma.

You see… Joseph is dedicated to his family. Seems he has a brother and a sister, both of whom are in foster care. Siblings he obviously loves enough to fight the fight for custody, an extremely long and costly battle, and one that has required him to work three jobs to support. He speaks with no malice, only a peaceful concern to reunite and a drive to do whatever he can to rebuild his family.

I write of this in requesting us all to take a moment of silence for Joseph and his family. And please forgive me if I am getting too new age with this request. But after experiencing so many Zen-like moments in my 365 travels, what the heck! A little good juju can’t hurt, can it?

Talk tomorrow, my friends.

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 177: “Always… Get And Give Receipts”

Who says apartment living cannot be communal? And if there are any apartment living rules that demand this, then Don, the man behind Das Bauhaus, is breaking all the regulations.

First off, those who reside in one of the twenty-four units of Das Bauhaus are called guests.

Guests, not tenants, not renters or not even numbers, they are respected as unique individuals; and I have to credit this as one of the major reasons there is a long waiting list to get an apartment in the compound.

I intentionally call Das Bauhaus a compound for a purpose. To call it an apartment complex would be selling it short.

The place is a visual and cultural festival. Art is everywhere, and is constantly being updated by the talents of those who are guests within the compound walls. Walls and guests that echo the community spirit, and vision of community, that Don has spent a life nurturing.

“I became very active in community service over twenty years ago when a group of us started the first Northridge Community Council. We changed the way things were done. First we dropped the titles, replacing them with things like big kahuna, bean counter, etc. We even drafted our by laws to allow for dogs to vote and not cats… everyone knows cat’s cannot be trusted. We did great things, and were supported by a very aware and active community. We all went at it like Indians, with no one looking to become a Chief. It was all about vision!

Downtown could not stand it, they even offered us a fifty thousand dollar grant, but we did not take it. Didn’t need it, we were doing well with what we had, and we knew if we accepted the money, there would be strings attached.”

Don tells me of the works they did, from hosting huge fund-raising events at Das Bauhaus to creating a vivacious community service team who were, and continue to beautify, watch and keep the neighborhoods and streets clean and safe.

Here is a cool fact; to be a guest at Das Bauhaus it is required to provide proof of participation in a yearly community service. That alone is a confirmer of the character that lies within the people of its community.

And because of this community, I am forced to break my entry into two consecutive days… a first for 365. With this, today I’m telling you of Das Bauhaus creator Don, and tomorrow I’ll introduce you to his daughter and five guests that are a living tribute to the community.

In getting to know Don, he guides me on a walking tour of the facility, all the while receiving greetings from his guests… as I observed… community.

Don cheerfully engages with all who greet him, and as he does, I feel as if I am part of a connected family of diverse people, all of whom are in-lawed together by the gates of Das Bauhaus.

Stories of art and energy surround me, a courtyard stage to the front of me, an eclectic recreation room behind me, as well as a curiously magnetic dart boarding enclosure to my right (Don’s way of turning the electrical room into a functional socializing experience).

Das Bauhaus is a breeding ground for human unity and in it you can feel, and see, its contribution to modern culture and creativity.

Don takes me to the parking area. All around us are elaborate works of graffiti art, some of which is created by the hands of now established and respected artists.

“All of this is living and breathing,” Don explains.

“And it’s been really cool to watch it grow. I’ve seen some amazing things happen here.

We’ve had days when twenty or more graffiti artists have gathered to work together on a wall. It’s a blast to watch. Here is this rough-looking group of guys, sitting around and constructively critiquing the work. Where else can something like this happen? If they did it on the streets, they would be arrested, and here they form a proactive community. How cool is that!”

Don shows me another quirky perk, a welding areas, complete with tools. “I’ve got one girl living here that is an exceptional artist, she is now making a living with her welded sculptures.”

They guy truly cares for all who are guests and he does all that he can to help them evolve in their lives. We joke about his title, and he settles on, “I’m OK with being called the Landlord.”

In summarizing Das Bauhaus, Don has the perfect words, “It is a cocktail that is always evolving. We work to keep the energy moving, and are very careful in the guests we accept. This is a special place, and the chemistry of the people who live here influence it spirit for all of us.”

I’ve only scratched the surface in describing the visual feast of Das Bauhaus. A place that is the brainchild of our new friend Don, and an ever-evolving manifestation of the guests that call it home.

Madonna Doors

From the handcrafted mail area to the strange second level doors that were one in Madonna’s home and ever-changing display cases that greet all who enter it gates, Das Bauhaus is one of a kind.

With the sweat of his own hands Don has built a home for the eclectic. A huge think tank of cultural diversity and a sanctuary for the arts. Tomorrow I will introduce you to a few of his guests, but for now I’ll conclude with a sober side of Don’s concerns for society.

“I’m not feeling so hot about the future. I’ve lived through The Bay of Pigs, Castro, The Cold War and Vietnam, and I have to say, I’ve never seen things like they are now. I think we are in a lot of trouble.

I’m pro Israel; it is a great country and a testament to people who can survive in a fight for peace. We should all model their tenacity and concerns for society. The Middle East is messed up by the greed of misdirected religion and that in combination with the war for fossil fuel is breeding the fulfillment of what is to come. We need to stand up and do what is right, and we need politicians who are courageous enough to move us forward.”

Don, you are a man of action. Your history, deeds and the community you so selflessly support clarify this to us all.

My hope is that your hard work is not in vain, and by the fruits of your efforts, and your courage to speak out of times to come, that we all gain a glimpse into your vision.

A vision that I think I can accurately translate to this question.

Shall there come a day when we can push ourselves in choosing to see eye-to-eye, rather than, through misdirected acts or reactions, adopt the lower law of an eye-for-an-eye?

Don, thanks again, we’ll keep our eyes open.

Oh! One final note… Don departs one last word of wisdom, “Always… get and give receipts.”

We have to give him that, after all… he is a landlord.

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 176: “Green Lantern Colors” meets “Zombie Gore”

I ask him for his council, “A random immortal movement requires something epic,” he replies in addressing the mission of 365.

An immortal movement requiring something epic? That is a large title for me to swallow, but I take it as a compliment from our friend of the hour, Gonzo, Chameleon and Film Maker, K. Harrison Sweeney, as he begins his dialogue, or should I say monologue with us today.

I am not alone in meeting K. Harrison (I’m going to call him K. for short), with me is my long time friend Donna (not pictured). Having her participate in 365 is cause for joy, and her contribution to our conversation is welcomed by both K and myself. Group discussions are always so refreshing.

As we casually begin our conversation, K searches for a response to what he is calling and epic question, and as he does, Donna and I are captivated by the energy of a mind that does not stop. You see… K is a furry of imagination and improvisational skill.

“I’m in preproduction of my second Zombie film,” K propels. And I use the word propels very selectively.

In his description of his film we are entertained by an endless sense of humor in every aspect of K’s delivery and posture. K is a performer through and through and we all find ourselves immersed in a surreal mixture of real world issues and organic satire.

K has theater chops, I looked his bio up, Macbeth, Death of a Salesman, Romeo and Juliet and Fiddler on the Roof to name a few. Credits, that in addition to an endless lists of TV, film and commercials, further backs his credentials as he presses into the world of filmmaking.

Yet with a history of highly traditional roles, why Zombie films? I regret not asking K this question directly, but I think the answer lies in his eventual response in counseling us, “We have to dance with the mischief makers and learn exercise them!” he chuckles.

“It all in good fun,” and in this fun K has found a niche. Seems there is a gigantic culture of Zombie fans. And after a few minute in Google, I uncover a global audience of events and champions of the macabre who are eating the Zombie genre up. “Eating it up,”J, no pun intended.

K’s wit is at the core of his directorial decisions, and his intent is pure in working to produce films that are an extreme and silly escape from the reality of life, like I mentioned K is an entertainer.

And in an industry that has a reputation for crushing esteem and moral, K has managed to find a balance. In his captivating, I’m on stage form, he advises, “Do not put yourself in the presence of the demons.”

Demons…? A pretty deep and dark metaphor, and a simile that can be interpreted into all of our lives.

I view it this way. A demon is anything, situation or person who direct us in a path that diminishes self-respect and belittles or judges our worth without first obtaining a full understanding of the reasons for what we do, or who we are.

In the simplest terms, any external influence, or even self-reflected internal inspiration that makes us feel less than, or forces us to impose any negative on the will on others.

K’s smile is evident that he has managed to avoid the demons, and even though his films are raunchy, bloody and graphic, I checked out a trailer to his last film, “Undead Lovers,” there is a lightheartedness to them. Again a silly escape intended to entertain.

I ask K of his council for the future.

“’Funny you should ask me that question, I’m making a film right now for that very reason, ‘From the Trailer to the Grave,’  It speaks out about society. Things like environmentalism and racism.’”

“I grew up watching films like Mad Max and Indiana Jones, they are sagas where in every moment obstacles are overcome. That is what motivates me in my filmmaking.

I loved the Green Lantern comic book series and the way they used colors to represent virtues.”

K reflects on his childhood movie and comic influences in stating, “Every day of your life is a sequel that you are part of, and the more you embrace it, the more fun you will have.”

And using the Green Lantern as a guide, K expands on identifying the human experience. And as he does, I reflect on my outlook of life and how I manage my emotions.

For those of you who are not familiar with the emotions connected to the Green Lantern colors, here is a glossary a link in explaining its history.

Red is rage. Orange is avarice, Yellow is Fear, Green is will power, Blue is hope, Indigo is compassion, and Violet is Love. There is also Black which is Death, and is taking all the other colors to fight.

The history of the Green Lantern.

May we all have the Green to continue in Blue and to share as much Indigo as we can? And if we can stop Yellowing, in letting go of any Red, then possibly we can build a world with a lesser depth of Orange. It is up to us to choose. Do we Violet our neighbors as we Violet ourselves? I don’t know?

But I can say one thing… the smallest of acts goes a long way in starting the ball rolling in bettering our relationships?

K, a blast hanging with you. Good luck with your filming and thanks for the colors.

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 175: May We All Find Resolve

From a distance I see a man isolated on a bench beneath a tree, no one approaches him, or even resides near his proximity. At visual impression he is of great stature, and with his attention directed to literature in his hand, while engaged in a phone call, it leaves question as to his demeanor, or willingness, to even interface with those around him; sort of a conflict to the tone of our location, the interactive grounds of The Huntington Library, Museum and Gardens.

My wife also notices him, “Photograph him,” she directs me. I’ll admit, his presence intimidates me. But to not at least introduce myself would make me a hypocrite to my own 365 mission of “Chin up and eyes open to the world.”

I have no idea of what to expect as I wander to the shade in which my unknown friend has found privacy, and as he begins to stand up I reach out with a hello and invite to 365.

“I’m Richard” I share as I speak of 365. With a listening ear, followed with a smile, he replies, “Nice to meet you Richard, I’m Richard.”

My intimidation dissolves instantly and I find myself engaged in conversation with a very kind and polite individual. A man who originally I viewed as possibly unapproachable turns out to be a very compassionate and peace seeking human. Yet another lesson in looking past our conceptions in regards to the judgments we place on those around us. And today I am a partial offender in letting my fear distort my perspective of humanity.

I call Richard peace seeking. “I don’t believe in war and we have to stop it now,” he advises.

Richard’s beliefs are strong and he credits finding them to an experience he had at eighteen, “I read an article by Frank Church just before the Vietnam War broke out. That article changed my life and from then on I became a conscientious objector.”

It’s interesting how a man that I was very much intimidated by, is the exact opposite of my earlier perceptions. Richard wears a concern for life, liberty and the environment in his every word.

Per the planet, “We are in some deep Kimchi if we don’t do something fast!”

I get quite the education as Richard brings me up to speed on what is happening the to Earth’s atmosphere, and conditions that are leading to the acceleration of global warming. It has to do with the levels of CO2 in the air, and the easiest way to bring you up to speed is to give you a link to an organization he supports, 350.org.

Here is the synopsis of the problem (as quoted at 350.org):
“350 parts per million is what many scientists, climate experts, and progressive national governments are now saying is the safe upper limit for CO2 in our atmosphere.

Accelerating arctic warming and other early climate impacts have led scientists to conclude that we are already above the safe zone at our current 390ppm, and that unless we are able to rapidly return to below 350 ppm this century, we risk reaching tipping points and irreversible impacts such as the melting of the Greenland ice sheet and major methane releases from increased permafrost melt.”

Richard says, “We are in some deep Kimchi!

Everyday we get closer to the end. We need to see more planning for change, and we all have to opportunity to speak out,” he expands.

“I am a pacifist,” Richard calmly reveals, yet in stating it he directs no incrimination toward those serving at the fronts or enlisted in service. He even talks of the wars we face in everyday life and of civil rights.

What he does point his finger at are the political and big business endorsers of world conflict. And once again to support his reasoning, Richard provides us with a couple of interesting links:

Fellowship of the reconciliation (FOR)
FOR has been at the fronts of the fight for peace and freedom for over 100 years. They are a well-established organization with a history of conflict resolve.

The FOR Mission Statement
“FOR seeks to replace violence, war, racism and economic injustice with nonviolence, peace and justice. We are an interfaith organization committed to active nonviolence as a transforming way of life and as a means of radical change. We educate, train, build coalitions, and engage in nonviolent and compassionate actions locally, nationally, and globally.”

The FOR Vision Statement
“FOR envisions a world of justice, peace, and freedom. It is a revolutionary vision of a beloved community where differences are respected, conflicts are addressed nonviolently, oppressive structures are dismantled, and where people live in harmony with the earth, nurtured by diverse spiritual traditions that foster compassion, solidarity, and reconciliation.”

War Resisters League
“The War Resisters League has been resisting war ate home and war abroad since 1923. Today, as one of the leading radical voices in the antiwar movement, we challenge military recruitment and war profiteering, organize nonviolent direct actions, and offer on-the-ground tools to end the current war and all wars. The War Resisters League affirms that all war is a crime against humanity. We are determined not to support any kind of war, internationally or civil, and to strive nonviolently for the removal of the causes of war, including racism, sexism and all forms of human exploitation.”

In the end… it is up to us to decide which side of the fence we sit on in regards to warfare. In considering it’s purpose, I cannot ignore the blessing we have in America, and history tells of just wars, compassionately fought for freedom from oppression.

But on the other hand… we must question, “How many wars are wars for ultimate power?” The Hitler’s, Mussolini’s and Bin Laden’s, or the big business’ that so greedily profit at the expense of life, liberty and family?”

As per the planet, we all have the power to influence change. Even the smallest of acts can make the greatest of impact. That is… if we all do them.

Richard, we thank you for pointing our eyes at resolve.

And for the brave men and women who so willing risk life and limb in the fight for freedom. Freedom we all deserve. My you find yourself in just battles and thank you for your service or welcome home.

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 174: Young Survivors

Two nights ago you were with me at Cloud 9 Hookah Lounge as we spent a short time with Karnnitha, a young woman with a true purpose in life. She shared with us her insights and desire to reach out in helping the women of the world, enlightening us to the troubles facing the many unfortunate young women.

We talked of the greatness in all of us and today we will pick that discussion back up in meeting our new friends of day 174.

But before I tell you about them, I have a confession; I did not meet them today. I actually met them as I was leaving Cloud 9 after my interview of Karnnitha.

Picture me as a 365 billboard, everywhere I go handing out cards in promoting its purpose to all I pass by. So as I leave Cloud 9, I take a second to say hello to a group enjoying an evening of Hookah chill.

Well… a second turns into twenty minutes. Fascinating conversation and by the glow in faces of my unknown, and young acquaintances, is a proclamation of their great depth and experience. I cannot pass on extending them an offer to contribute to 365. They light up and we arrange a meeting place, Rite Aid in the Calabasas commons shopping center. A strange place to meet, but it is there call… so I go with it.

Two days pass and I find myself standing outside of our agreed upon Rite Aid. Its cold, and waiting in the parking lot, I stand in expectation of my friend’s arrival. When from behind me I hear, “Richard.” I turn and there they are, two unique and caring young adults, both obviously committed to their special friendship, readers please give welcome to survivors, Taylor and Ben.

You will understand what I mean by survivors as you read on.

I have to ask, “Why Rite Aid?”

“It’s our office, we have a place to sit in the back,” They laugh.

“The managers and everyone who works here knows us, its warm and they let us hang out. Sometimes they even feed us.”

That place to sit they talk of… the waiting area of the pharmacy. We even have a screen for privacy. At one point during beginning introductions the manager walks over, places his hand on the screen and firmly commands, “Why is this here!”

Ben fly’s off, “Because we need privacy!”

I’m caught a little off guard, and trying to lessen the uncomfortable situation, I try to diffuse, “Do you want me to take them outside?” I joke with what looks like a very annoyed store manager.

They all crack up. The joke is on me. These kids are special and the manager knows it. Seems I’ve been set up. Our manager friend replaces the screen and we begin a deeper conversation.

Taylor goes first in encouraging all, “Don’t give up, only the strong survive.”

Only the strong survive? A very bold opening statement from a very young mind.

I quickly discover that Taylor has earned the badges to own such a sentence.

“I was very rebellious, ran away at fourteen, I lied about my age, told them I was sixteen and got a job at a restaurant that paid under the table. From there I couched it at friends houses until one day I moved in at the house of a guy that I really liked. That was a big mistake. The police came and arrested everyone. I got sent to one of those places in Utah for a year and a half. I hated it, but it saved me. While I was there I wrote letters to my father, he was in too.”

I have to interrupt, “He was in too? Was you father incarcerated?”

“Yes,” Taylor tells me, “But our letters helped bring us together and motivated both of us to rebuild our lives.”

Under sixteen and rebuilding her life? Think about that for a moment…

Taylor is a unique young woman, she is a blend of radical independence mixed with a charming and heart-felt attachment to the importance of family.

“Man! It doesn’t matter where you are in the world, if you have family, they will always be there. You have to have good family values.”

Even though Taylor and her father have lived, and learned, via the school of hard knocks, they both have a special connection, one that is apparent in Taylor’s words.

So what is core to Taylor’s rebellion? Believe it or not it is a medical condition, ADHD. In telling me of it Taylor speaks with the maturity of a women twice her age and has a regard for its influence on her life. Yet she looks at life with optimism and vigor, “You only have one life to live, if you are given the opportunity to do it, take it, and you have to be yourself.”

With the inclusion of Ben, we talk about being yourself. Taylor talks of life and what she sees in other kids her age, “People need to find happiness from within, not from the world around them. So many kids are unhappy. That’s why they go to school with guns or overdose, because they are unhappy.”

Ben opens up, “I’d love to see us all get alone. I see too many people hating and fighting because of religion and skin color. And I believe in second chances. If someone messes us, we have to give them a second chance.”

“Easy for a kid to say…” the pessimistic may shout. But I tell you, of all the people I know, Ben is the one who has the right to make this claim.

“When I was five I was shot because I am Jewish. I got hit by two bullets, one in the leg and the other in the abdomen. I lost fifty percent of my blood and almost died.

The guy who shot me was a member of the Arian Nation Movement and came here from Idaho to make his point. He walked into our Jewish Center and opened up… shot five of us. Then he left and shot and killed a Filipino man at another location. It was a big deal and in the national news. I remember meeting President Clinton, my mom speaking to Ted Kennedy, and a lot of other famous people stood by us. But that was a while ago. I’m past it and hold no hatred for what happened to me.”

By the way, Ben is also diagnosed with ADHD, part of the reason for the special bond of friendship he and Taylor share.

Ben has been brutally attacked by the hate of the world and Taylor has walked the paths of the lost, but both together prove the wonderment of the healing power of friendship.

A gentle giant, Ben speaks optimistically of the world, “I’d like to see a future where more people are sharing. People are selfish and greedy and that gets them in a lot of trouble.

And also, I’d like to see more real friendships.”

Taylor has this infections smile, and with it she praises Ben’s view of friendships with a loving, “Amen!”

These two young adults have seen life through dark forests, and even now they are not fully clear of the thistles.

Taylor talks of young womanhood and charges the new generating to shape up, “’The next generation of guys need to treat their women better. It’s not just the way they act, that Cholo thing; it’s the media too. They are messed up and trained to look at women as less than. They look at us as ‘Ho’s’ and ‘Bitches.’ What’s even sadder is the women are buying into it too. I know this first hand, I used to live that way and know how it feels. Girls need to step up and the guys need to respect them.’”

It is remarkable to meet two young people with the depth of life perspective, and experience, as both Ben and Taylor possess. In listening to them, I am acutely aware of the conditions the youth of America endure. Both of these special kids show astonishing stamina, and show powerful desire to overcome their obstacles.

Ben is in the fight for focus, and Taylor is battling to find her way through a history of vice and rebellion. But in both of these outstanding emerging individuals I see one common voice. A voice standing strong in a unified call to action.

As I mentioned, “There is greatness in all of us,” and Ben and Taylor are seeking theirs.

Ben, Taylor, you are of a noble generation, may you grow to be all that you can, and be able to do your part in making the planet a better place, we are counting on you.

Now go live your greatest dreams, my young friend!

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 173: “Quiet and Loving Greatness”

“’My dad said you can do anything you want to do if you work hard enough. He was very strict and I always addressed him with ‘yes sir’ or ‘no sir.’ He was a workaholic. I did not understand it at the time, but now I do. He was teaching me.’”
—Ramon

“I’ll never view our friendship the same.” After twenty years of both a professional and growing friendship, it is a pleasure to call Chrissy (not photographed) my friend.

For close to 20-years we’ve seen each others lives develop. From career advancements to our marriages we have always stayed in contact. In a world as competitive, and seasonal, as the entertainment industry, it is quiet a special thing to meet people like Chrissy.

She is a person of remarkable values, and whether in rain or shine, we have always managed to somehow stay in touch.

I start today’s entry using this tribute in crediting Chrissy as the purest way to light the marque in introducing our newest friend, Chrissy’s father Ramon – Age Ninety.

It is Ramon’s birthday party, and I have been invited to meet him. What I did not realize, is that other than immediate family, I am the only guest. I can’t tell you how humbled I am to find this out and to be privileged to be enjoying a home-made lunch with six of the warmest people I have ever met. All a credit to family unity and absolute love.

And to be a participant in celebrating the life of the man who set the bar for the values that Chrissy and her family radiate is an honor greater than winning any industry award.

This is what life’s about, family and the traditions therein; the families we came from, the families we are starting, or even the families we create in our friendships. And today, after over twenty years of friendship with Chrissy, I feel as if I have a larger family in spending time with her, her brother and family, and my new friend, her father, Ramon.

Ramon tells me of his childhood, “’My dad said you can do anything you want to do if you work hard enough. He was very strict and I always addressed him with ‘yes sir’ or ‘no sir.’ He was a workaholic. I did not understand it at the time, but now I do. He was teaching me.’”

On a shelf are photos of his father and mother, Chrissy gets them down and shows them to me.

“I remember working with dad, dad built a Mexican bakery and I worked there when I was in high school. We lived in a house behind it, and later built a store in the front.”

That store…? It is right next to Ramon’s niece’s house where we are having our birthday celebration. The store has been sold by the family now, but it still stands as recognition of Ramon’s fathers accomplishments.

“’My dad was a very good businessman, he said, ‘One day I’m going to own the whole block,’ and he did end us buying most of it.’”

With ninety years of rich history Ramon is remarkably clear in his detailed remembrance of his life. We talk of his earliest childhood memories. Family, his life as an athlete (very accomplished at football and baseball), living through wars, the growth of Long Beach, and of his marriage.

With tears, “My wife is a good woman, she always gave… worked for 40 years as a social worker. For ten years I worked at the same Catholic welfare center as she did. That’s where I met her. She was so smart and loving.”

Ramon breaks down in emotion as he tenderly talks about his wife. I’m chocked up by his show of tears and sitting next to us, as well touched by the moment, Chrissy says, “Did dad tell you why mom is not here?”

That’s part of the reason Ramon is gentle and watery eyed.

We talk of purpose, “I don’t fully know my purpose anymore” Ramon tears.

You see… Ramon’s wife is in deep stages of Alzheimer’s, and with the aid of a caregiver, he takes care of her full-time in the house of their dreams.

“I want her to be in her home,” Ramon shines.

I’m chocking up, “Might I suggest something?” I ask.

We pause and I call it as I see it, “You have raised a wonderful family, all intelligent, caring, self-sustaining and loving. Plus, you are doing all you can to give your sweetheart comfort. Perhaps that is a big part of your purpose?”

Ramon is a Christian, “We have to stay with Christianity,” he says. “I know it looks bleak, but with the help of God, I know it will all work out.”

We talk of the eternal perspective, a view shared by many faiths in one way or another, and a point that has given many of us comfort in times of trial or grief.

“Maybe in the eternal perspective, you and she will be together again,” I share as we shift subjects.

Ramon relates his wishes for us in a captivating way, sharing his life and relating it to his wishes for us.

“My dad taught me the importance of respect for family and work ethic. And working with my wife as a social worker I learned compassion and understanding.”

Ninety years walking the planet, Ramon has seen a lot, lived full and loved well. All evident in the children he has raised.

Ramon gives us insight as to preparing for the future, “Education, get as much as you can… Travel, and see the world. You have to see how other people live so you can see what the world really is and who people really are.”

“I was lucky enough to work as a social worker. I worked with all kinds of kids by day, and hard to reach groups by night. That, plus thirty years working in oil refinery with Arco helped me to travel and see things.”

Sure… A close friend of mine introduces me to her father Ramon; yet in meeting him I realize there are strangers nearer than we think. Could be a distant family member, a relation of a friend or even a link through a neighbor. But in the end, we are all a family of sorts in sharing this earth. And the more we reach out to meet whomever, the better we all will be.

Chrissy, Family and new friend Ramon, thanks for letting me into your lives.

And Ramon, your wisdom and love is felt by us all. Live long my friend.

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 172: There Is Greatness In All Of Us

After last night’s quarter tank of fuel waste, I decide to walk my own backyard neighborhood, and to again give my friends at Cloud 9 Hookah Lounge a visit.

In the door I go and it’s instantly like a reunion, as I talk to Justin, “To Walk With Them As The Same.” We catch up a bit and he let’s me know of his enrollment in Hypnotherapy school and that he will be licensed in six months. It’s way cool to see someone following a purpose they feel deep inside. I know he will help many.

“How’s 365 going?” he asks.

I bring him up to speed, “Beyond my wildest dreams, the thing is really taking off and it is changing my life for the better. I’ve accepted that its purpose is greater than myself and I’m just following it wherever it takes me.”

In our conversation he introduces me to Karnnitha, a very chill lady who is hanging out with one of the owners of Cloud 9. I sit with them to exchange stories and soon Karnnitha agrees to share words with us.

I ask my questions, and her answers are well thought out and precise.

“Don’t let the little things push you away from what you want to do. Stay positive and things will work out,” she contributes.

“I’d like to one day see that the planet is OK, the economy in America better and a world at peace,” Karnnitha expands as we settle in to lengthening our conversation.

“What are you plans for your future?” I ask.

Her response impresses me to the core. You see, Karnnitha is a selfless giver, a rare and admirable quality for someone just barely twenty.

“I’m studying to be a dentist, and as soon as I finish my education, I intend to return to Cambodia, where I plan to help the poor and the sick, and more importantly, do all I can to stop sex trafficking.”

Sex trafficking, an epidemic blotch on the face of society and a hideous atrocity of the greatest magnitude towards humanity. I’ve run into so many people who are engaged or intent on entering the fight against the de-humanization and literal evil of the human trafficking industry. That’s right? Industry! Billions of dollars in scale! How sick is that!

Our conversation takes me back to all that I learned from Lucy O’Brian, “The Power Of One” eighty-one days ago and reaffirms my commitment to at least do all I can to raise the awareness of the dreadful impact the sex trade has on the lives of so many women, and horrible to say, innocent children.

Karnnitha’s life purpose is a tribute to her maturity, the depth of her compassion, and her commitment to help in the fight to abolish the perversions of the sex for sale industry.

And if we think we are safe in America, Karnnitha enlightens us, “It’s not just a problem in Cambodia, it a huge problem worldwide, and very profitable in the United States.”

Very profitable in the United States… Bounces like a confirming echo to the facts that Lucy shared with us. Findings that she knows first hand from her ten years in the fields of fighting the human trafficking war. And Karnnitha is at Lucy’s tail feathers in getting up to speed in her efforts to further the works of all those so anxiously engaged it the fight.

It’s a wonderful thing to meet a young woman with such advanced values, and I compliment Karnnitha on her maturity, her life perspective and her courage in stepping up to do her part in working for human rights and the basic dignity that all should be able to enjoy.

“It’s not all me,” Karnnitha credits, “My parents taught me to never judge, to accept people for who they are, to be caring, loving and to be giving. That is a big part of why I am who I am.”

On her arms is a series of Tattoos, all with meanings honoring her family and friends. She tells me of her siblings and the love and time she has dedicated to helping her brother who is inflicted with multiple illnesses. “I’ve had to grow up fast and I like my life right now,” Karnnitha pronounces.

My schooling carries on, feels like I’m getting a Master’s Degree in understanding. An understanding that no matter where we are in life, or whom we appear to be on the outside, the potential for greatness is inside of us all.

We really can’t judge a book by its cover. For tonight, in a cool little Hookah Lounge, and in the heart of a young woman who is seemingly chill, lies the compassionate of a great lion of human rights activism.

Karnnitha, bless you in all you do! You inspire us all.