SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 296: “If You Are Happy… You Can Also Make Others Happy”

“Chin up and eyes open to the world,” something I say frequently to the many people whom I meet on the streets; and, words that I have not published for far too long. A philosophy that today brings me close to two new friends, husband and wife Suresh and Anita, who within only four blocks of my home I meet while on an end of day walk to pick up a bite to eat.

I run into them through an exchange of greetings as we share curb in waiting to cross an intersection.

Hailing from India, Suresh and Anita arrived to America only three short months ago, relocating for career reasons. It’s amazing how within such a short distance of my home, and inside of my own neighborhood, can be found the greatest diversity of all faiths, ethnicities and political points of view; people who, pulling from their endless set of life histories, all have a plethora of wisdom to impart.

Suresh and Anita are two such people, and in their being new to America, I feel it a privilege to be able to welcome them as community friends. Makes me wonder how often do we pass strangers, and inadvertently, due to schedules or fears, turn away from the opportunity to expand our social horizons. And at day 296 of my 365 social experiment, I’m understanding that these special moments happen more often than we acknowledge, and have first hand witnessed that if we take hold of them, the rewards are great in growing us closer to our fellow humans.

Even the shortest of conversations can be impactful in bringing not only change to our own hearts, but in being of positive influence to the outlooks of those we associate with.

Readers, I have to thank you for your support in staying with me on this one year challenge. You are a wonderful group who I hope have been able to look past my consistent rants and ravings, and are able to find there links to the council that so many have shared with us.

I openly admit, at times I feel a bit like a broken record. It’s just after speaking with close to one thousand strangers; the idea of a closer respect for one another is getting imbedded under my skin. So bear with me, or better yet, join me in saying your daily hellos to the world around you.

So here we are, Suresh, Anita and myself, standing on a street corner, backed by the soundscape of heavy commuter traffic. It is loud and deafening, but emitting from it are occasional bursts of rolled down applauds of encouragement given by several motorist who have been looking on as we shoot photos. Yet another testament to the fact that there really are people who are engaged with one another, and from this, we are further encouraged as we speak of community.

Over the hum of said passing motorists Suresh thumbnails his perspective on humanity, “Help each other… if we help each other the whole world gets better.”

I turn to Anita for her wisdom, without pause… “Follow your heart, don’t let others direct your path. Don’t listen to others who try to spoil your life… just follow your heart.

Don’t do stuff just because of what somebody else is saying. Listen to what you feel… and do that.

It is very important to be happy. Otherwise you are always sad because somebody else asked you to do something that you did not intend to do.

So choose to be happy… and if you are happy… you can also make others happy.”

Suresh and Anita, like I mentioned, have only been in America for three months. I’m sure a huge cultural shock in relocating from India. Yet there is a glow in their eyes that says, We are at home.”

Perhaps it may be somewhat presumptuous of me, but I think I know the core reason for that tranquility. Suresh and Anita simply care about people. For in the way they accepted me with the warm gestures they express in first meeting me, I felt of their compassion for the world around them, a world that Suresh obviously cares greatly about.

“We are using a lot of resources…” he appeals, “…it’s better to say no, than to waste any resource. They are the things that are helping us to survive. We are in risk of finishing all our natural resources. We can’t keep using them all up.”

Anita listens intently to Suresh’s plea, and although agreeing with his observation, takes time to add her own commentary on modern society. “We are getting more and more into the Internet for communication and we are losing touch with people because of video games and stuff. And, the real life of playing on the ground, especially the kids, the future generation youngsters, is getting lost. They are more into the video games and the Internet than of actual activity. They are really not moving around… interacting with people. It concerns me that interaction is going down, at least with people who are urban.”

Makes me think about how we met. Not in a viral world, not through a social network, but face to face. Walking through urban nirvana in route to getting dinner. In a world of delivered food, drive through calories and every type of store-bought frozen delight, it is comforting to know that there are people who do slow down to smell the roses (metaphorically speaking). For in the eye of the city storm, there can be found calm. A calm that transcends the noise of the pavement and can settle the most rushed of modern minds… a calm that can only be described as an appreciation of fellow-man.

And today, a calm that I am happy to say is brought to me via the outstretched welcome of my new friends, Suresh and Anita.

Welcome to the neighborhood my friends; I’m sure we’ll run into each other again!

And Anita, your are right on the mark, “If you are happy… you can also make others happy.”

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 295: “May It Be Amazing”

It’s early Sunday morning and as expected, the sleeping in after Saturday night crowd has left the streets a bit thin of movement. And other than the coffee shop crowd and open houses of worship, people are sparse wherever I roam.

So I decide to drive the rural areas in getting out of my regular geography. And of course, the sleepier the community, the lessor the population circulates in the cool morning sun, sort of a sad finding, with such a perfect morning forming.

I cruise aimlessly, windows down, cool breeze slapping me in the face and mind open in watching the world blur by. When, in passing a small little park on the outskirts of Los Angeles County, a figure, about one hundred yards to the North of my forty mile an hour trajectory, forces me to rubber neck into a rather aggressive U-turn. Gosh! Sometimes I feel like such a stalker.

But as I absorb the g-force of my rapid course change all trepidation escapes me when a feeling of, “you are making the right choice,” enters my psyche.

I pull into the park and over the sound of welcoming dog barks, I introduce myself to Father, Husband, Human Resource Manager and Expert Downhill Mountain Bike Racer… Jim.

“You have to have fun and enjoy life… do things that you enjoy… no matter how old you are.” Jim proclaims.

“In everything that you have going on… you have to have fun.

Don’t worry about the things that are going on now, or about getting old, we have to enjoy where we are. Think about the things that we worried about five years ago, they are no big deal now. They were at the time, but you can say now that they were not that big of a deal. It took me a long time to learn that, and now I apply that to the way I react to things.

We have to learn to appreciate where we are, and to not stress about the little things in life.

In five years… hopefully the economy will be better… I don’t know. But I see a future where people are getting more aware with the challenges of pollution, issues with the earth… things like that, and hopefully that will carry on.

Looking further is tough… It’s hard to say. It seems like in the last twenty years much has changed with technology and stuff. It will be amazing the see where we will be in one hundred years… I don’t even know.

It’s going to change though. Think twenty year ago to now – cellphones, digital cameras and all the things we can’t live without. I don’t even know where to start with looking one hundred years ahead. It’s a tough question.

The question is, how much can change in one hundred years?

It’s not like we have the flying cars they said back in the sixties that we would have by the year two thousand. But, still it would be amazing to see where we will be with technology in one hundred years.

I have hope for my kids and their kids, we’ve learned a lot, and hopefully the economy will be better by then.

The advice I give my kids is to stay in school so they can rely on themselves to be professional in whatever field they choose. My daughter wants to be a doctor.”

Jim, I appreciate you openness to chat with a stranger this morning, and for your candor in the way you see the future. Many of us unite with you in calling in a better world to come. And we dream as do you, “May it be amazing.”

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 294: “Food Truck Alley”

“I like old stuff and new stuff. People say that I was born in the wrong era, but I have to nip that. I have an appreciation for antiquated things… Older things interest me…” Explains Squeezebox Sam as he generalizes his outlook on modern society.

“But I think that as far as society goes, as far as humanity goes, I feel like in the last one hundred… two hundred years… the human being as a creature has evolved socially and scientifically for the better. And I think I’m living in exactly the right period of time. I think I’m lucky to not have been put in 1890 or 1956 or something like that.”

Sam is a way cool gent, and with the companionship of his equally interesting fiancé, multi-media artist Nouar, I am not only entertained by their quirky style of street music but am enlightened by their charismatic blend of personality, intelligence, and spontaneous creativity.

It takes a special kind of person to open their world to unknown passer-byes. And at the prompt of my sister-in-law as we enjoy an outing at food truck alley, “Go talk to them!” I am captivated to grab sidewalk with my new artistic friends.

“Watch where you step.” The Squeezebox councils, “You’ve got to step carefully in your life. That applies to all kinds of things… from business to learning yourselves… leave a small footprint, that kind of thing. Watch where you step! You should always watch where you put your feet, both figuratively and in what you do. That’s my advice.”

Sam’s words so align with 365’s core purpose of getting us all to think more deeply about the question of putting our feet in the shoes of others. I tell Squeezebox about this premise.

“Ah yes!” he says, “Atticus Finch, To Kill A Mockingbird. One thing you’ve got to learn is to get in somebody else’s skin and walk around in it for a while. You’d get along with people a whole lot better.”

The Squeezebox is a very educated man with multiple degrees he teaches a variety of subjects from art to film to English.

“I’ve been focusing on teaching English for the last couple of years, there’s better job security in that subject,” he tells me.

I’m not even going to get started on that soapbox. I’ll just keep it short. Well maybe not…

A couple of months ago while driving home, I noticed well-working traffic signals being replaced. About eight miles of them, they were in perfect working order. And, I would probably be bewildered to know exactly how much the expense of this senseless upgrade was to we the taxpayers. I’m sure it was a bunch of cash.

As I was stopped, yep, at one of the not yet replaced, well-working traffic signals, I looked to the left at a deteriorating elementary school. My heart sank a little as I thought about the school. Not just for the improvement (No! No! No!… I catch myself as I am writing this account), the maintenance funds it needs. Even more troublesome is the serious educational cutbacks of staff and curriculum that are rapidly becoming epidemic in many a school system.

From losing teachers to eliminating art and other similar courses that stimulate independent thinking our countries school system is becoming rapidly flawed. This added to classes that are overpopulated with good teachers being pressed to their breaking point in doing whatever they can to provide quality education. Added to this their hands are tied by an overwhelming number of political controls, organizational macro-management, and lack of financial incentives.

So to see an upgrade to a working traffic system, at the taxpayer’s expense, just kills me. I know the issues of governmental economic problems are overwhelming, and I am not speaking with my head in the clouds of wholly emotional outburst.

But I cannot for the life of me understand why one of the most important contributors to bettering the future, that being education, continues to take the financial back seat in many cases. I’m telling you, I’d be quite happy with the same old stoplights, knowing that money was pointed towards teaching our kids.

Alright, I’ll calm down… and Squeezebox, I appreciate you giving me the floor for a moment of vent. Thank you for your commitment to teaching our kids. Hope you can keep some of the arts alive in how you approach your English teaching.

Nouar shares a few words of advice. “Be careful on whose toes you step on today, because they may be connected to the ass you have to kiss tomorrow.”

Squeezebox bursts out a supportive chuckle, “It’s poetic!”

I think about Nouar’s call, and with a smile, realize how appropriate it is, even modifying it. “The reverse works too,” I reveal.

We exchange smiles and move on.

Nouar speaks of her concerns for the future. “We need to recycle and take care of what we have already… conservation and reusing in general.” Pointing to her cup, “Like this cup… I think, ‘What I can use it for?’ Always try to look at things in your surroundings in how you can reuse them.  I’m an artist, so I guess I always look at things a little differently. ‘What can I do with this or that sort of thing?’”

Sam again smiles enthusiastically at his lady. And with the same energy Nouar passes the baton back to him for his comments on what’s ahead.

“My advice for the world?” The Squeezebox reflects. “As a teacher, I hope that humanity doesn’t stagger in its upward swing. I hope it keeps moving up… they don’t lag… they don’t stall off… they don’t get caught up in the now, instead of looking at the future.

“Yes… I think I’m going to hope for that. That people will do their part to make the world a better place for human beings in general.”

Readers, thank you for joining us this evening for our musical jaunt down food truck alley; Friday night home of fine food, entertainment, and for those who open their arms, meaningful conversation. Conversation that, with hope and humor, Squeezebox and Nouar have so gracefully entrusted to us. Their words are our feast this evening.

And even with so many eating options around tonight, after speaking with Squeezebox and Nouar, I consider myself nourished.

Well, let’s say “socially fed”… I still have to find my culinary treat!

Talk tomorrow my friends!

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 292: “What If We Pay More Attention?”

I’ll not lie… from the beginning of 365 I promised you that I would do the best to describe my feelings in one way or the other. And I have to confess that I am feeling some extreme fatigue as I drive, stuck on a traffic jammed highway 101 in route to a production meeting later this afternoon.

And even though 365 has grown my outlook towards the people around me, as well as the love I have for those I don’t know in appreciating our differences, I have to say that today with three-hundred days of writing, interviewing, photo-imaging, less the six days I have dedicated to challenges, I am feeling a lot of stress. Stress brought on from the cumulative two to seven hour I’ve spent daily since the inception of 365 way back in September.

But even with this stress, it is impossible for me to not acknowledge the personal growth that I have gained, as well as the closeness I feel, in a bizarre vicarious way, to you my readers.

Feeling that I am experiencing in an overwhelming way as I commute. And thanks to that fun little dictation add that I have on my iPad, feelings that I am able to record as I navigate the traffic that I am captured in.

I have not yet meet my stranger turned friend for the day yet, and I have no idea what was in store for me. It’s 11:18am and my meeting is at 2:00pm, giving me two-hours to socialize with the world. We’ll see what happens.

In the avoidance of another traffic citation, probably best to shut down this driving dictation right now. I pick it back up in a few hours…

… OK, I’ve arrived… Picking it up at the Pacific Design Center (PDC), site of my meeting – now only sixty minutes away. I sit in the lobby, and as per 365 custom dictates, and despite of my earlier mentioned fatigue, I smile and nod at all who pass by.

As expected, most gesture back with a questioning curiosity, “Who is this guy? What does he want with me?”

No harm, no foul taken. After all, I am an absolute stranger and to be skeptical of the darkly dressed dude sitting in the center of a very open space is quite an acceptable human reaction. So no judgment cast, we are all busy, and have our own personal set of experience. It is quite natural to be guarded to those we don’t know, one has to assume.

But one thing strikes me funny… I think of the isolated drive in the packed traffic that got me here, and comparing it to the scarcity of those I find myself cohabitating with, in the air-conditioned bliss of the wide public areas of the PDC I am forced to contemplate. And in this contemplation, I calculate one common denominator: The invisible wall that we all too often place between ourselves and the world around us, while in automobile or on foot it matters not. What is of resonance is the lesson learned in the observation, “At too many time we are a divided people.”

I do an experiment in going to the door to open it for others. Most are grateful of the gesture, and even then, there are a few people who scurry by frightened by my outreach. I can’t fully figure it out.

Makes me question, “What if we all just trust a little more. Not saying that we have to completely drop our walls. There is good reason for them at many a time. Still though… I just ask that we be a little more aware of each other.

Here I am at the PDC, clock ticking down to meeting time, most people avoiding me, when I meet Levi.

“Make what you love… It is the best thing you can do for yourself,” He councils.

“I think I can only speak for myself…” Levi say, “… My agenda is me first… which is probably quite similar to the rest of the human race.”

Don’t judge, until you hear Levi’s reasoning.

Levi speaks of me first, but the more you get to know him, you quickly understand Levi is not caught up in egotism and self-absorption.

“I just feel like if I curate my life, and the people that I love, in the manner that I desire, my world is going to be a lot better and more enjoyable. But it is really important that in all the things that I do, that they are also good for other people. You know… we can only make a little change by ourselves. But, at least for the immediate influence for those around us, it can make somewhat of a difference.

It’s like if people make smart cars. Only one person is going to own that car, so by buying it, they are really helping themselves by owning the car and are not hurting the rest of the people around them.

I’m a super on the fence, type of deal, I don’t think there’s too many people that actually make an effort to teach things where a lot of other people learn, but it is a lead by example type deal for me. Where if people start paying attention they might learn something.

Levi, thanks for the neighborly chat my friend, hope to run into you again!

And thanks for your example… “What if people start paying more attention?”

SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 289: “All Men Should Go Bald”

“All men should go bald… too many men fear what they don’t know. They will sit there… looking at themselves, doing their comb overs, trying to save their youth. But if at a younger age, they just stepped back, sheered it all off, and look at their heads that way, it would kind of get rid of their fear. And once we get rid of the fear, we can live an easier life.”

Ron and I unite in an affirmation to the sun blessed craniums of the world. Bald heads of the earth unite, and accept the skulls that we can now so confidently display. We are one, and our scalps are yours to appreciate.

Ron is a cool guy… unassuming, well-adjusted and extroverted. I feel fortunate to run into him this evening as we attend a backyard Italian dinner party thrown by a common friend of ours. It’s very refreshing, that in a yard full of people who walk in my usual circles, I find time to dine with a new acquaintance. A man who I am very proud to call friend. And to all of my friends who are reading this entry, “I still love you.”

But there is more meaning in Ron’s hair reference than meets the eye, for in it, is a statement much more powerful than vanity.

I look at is as a parable, the hair standing as the opinions of man, and the skin of the scalp being a symbol representing thy neighbor.

Defined further, once we shed our shroud of opinion (our hair), and look upon the people around us as simply other people. People who most likely have similar fears (replace loss of hair, to fear of fellow-man, judgment or whatever), we are more alike than we accept.

Ron grows his parable, “After you’ve tried shaving your head, it’s just a matter of being nice to each other. Don’t look at people as if they are doing something evil. Realize that they are doing something that is hopefully for the betterment of themselves or their families… Give them the chance.

Walk around in their shoes, I guess… And as long as there is a little bit more understanding out there… the world can be a better place.

And if I had any word to tell the people it would be to try to make the world a better place. It could be a really small thing. The small steps can make a big difference if we all do it.

I don’t understand how people can see the one side as being evil, when really they are just trying to live the way the believe.

It’s gonna get worse before it gets better. We are leaning towards kind of a breaking point. People are so diverse in their thoughts. Whether they are to the left or to the right… and that gap in the middle, which I have always rested comfortably on. It is becoming intolerant. There isn’t much to stand on because people are really feeling one way or the other.

The short-term is going to be rough. But I think sometimes it has to get really bad so you can rebuild.”

Ron, we hear you, and in the tone of solidarity, “Lets all grab our shavers and let the scalp shine…” That is metaphorically of course.

Let us fear not… Reaching out is easier than we think. Like Ron suggests, “It could be a really small thing. The small steps can make a big difference if we all do it.”

Oh man! I can’t believe it! I’m going to use the much over used Nike slogan (Hey Nike, can you throw 365 a little sponsorship money, we want to take it places).

Here we go and please forgive me, but it somehow works to support Ron’s advice.

Reach-Out…

… Just do it!

Have a great week my friend!

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SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 288: “Relationships Will Never End”

5:58am, sitting next to a new friend…. as we wait for the 9:30am door opening of registration for the community centers summer arts classes that our kids will be attending.

To give you a feel for the geography, to the left of me is the entry of the center and between it and I are around ten people. To the right a line that is growing to be longer than I can count, literally wrapping the sidewall as far as I can see with a quick lean forward from my position in line.

Usually my wife does the morning wait, but this year I have become the chosen one, partially by my decision, and partially in respect to my wife for the past four years of her sitting in the folding chair that I now find myself occupying.

I’ve mentioned my friends to my left, and the length of persons to my right, but let me introduce you to our new 365 friend who I have already hinted of. To my immediate right, mother and artist, So-Ok.

And in regards to the aforementioned 5:58am arrival and the knowledge of the much later opening for class sign-up, I settle in for a morning of meaningful conversation with So-Ok. It is not often that I get to spend extended time with my new friends and I must give thanks for being able to set with a person that I consider a highlight in my 365 journeys.

Three hours I share sidewalk with So-Ok and from it I can definitely say I am a better person for breaking morning bread with her.

I ask So-Ok for her words of advice to us. Humility is an understatement in describing So-Ok as she pauses in grabbing her jacket while reflection how to answer our questions.

Jacket on, she shares three simple words, “Respect the other.”

It’s not often I get to write on the spot, but with hours to sit, and with time to spare, So-Ok snaps a photo while I work on our blog entry.

Yet in her succinct summation there is deeper meaning, So-Ok quote, “People can become selfish and they have to begin to think not only for themselves. They need to learn to be concerned for the other people. That is what it means to not be selfish.

Relationships will never end: Spouses, friends, people and in-laws.

If you don’t now how to deal with it, you are loosing out. If we don’t think about only ourselves… we gain.

I am scared for the future. We have to be organic in the way we treat each other. What is most important is the relationship.”

As we talk, a palpable trust is forming. Perhaps it is the fact that we are both enrolling children in the same community center class, arts and crafts. Quite possibly it is the morning grogginess that has numbed our senses. Or maybe it is the fact that we are stranded together in wait and are merely entertaining one another… All thoughts that are questionable, and all are results of the pessimistic side of my brain.

Yet, what is really overpowering is the spirit I feel when speaking with my new friend So-Ok. It is palpable in her every word, and she is enveloped in peace. No pessimism here, just acceptance of another human who has meaningful thought to share. I am engrossed.

“When my kids grow up, it might be a little different…” So-Ok explains, “…like in a Sci-Fi movie…isolated… individual… The way they communicate will be different from now. I am a little sad about it.”

So-Ok references an advertising campaign that addresses the perils of irresponsible use of new technology. A series of billboards, sponsored by the Ad Council, that compare the joysticks of the virtual world to that of interacting with nature, Like the ad proves, we need to be more organic in turning away from digital facades to appreciate the real beauty of the world around us.

“Advice to the future?” So-Ok again becomes reflective. “We have to realize what the true value of life are… living with others. If you don’t lose that part, the future won’t be as difficult.”

So-Ok speaks of relationship, “If you think about living by yourself… it is so sad. I am always with my kids. And I am sad for those who are lonely… being lonely is really bad.”

And if you are lonely So-Ok offers this encouragement, “The person who is lonely has the key to open the door. If you are, do what you can to get out the house and be ready to accept that people are there to greet you. Otherwise it does not work.”

And for those of us who are not lonely, So-Ok gives us this. “It is hard to approach the lonely person, because the loneliness is based on their life and you don’t know what they have gone through. Like if someone is in depression in your family… it creates a whole depression in your family. At least that family member can try to help within your family or circle of friends.

Although we are not like a counselor who spends a lot of time to know the life of their patients, we at least need to open our hearts to those that are lonely.”

So-Ok is a compassionate and loving person, but as importantly, she is a mother of two children. “As a parent, my heart goes out for children who don’t have parents, that must be a really sad thing. It is not their choice to be here and we need to be aware of that.

I volunteer in my children’s classes and I see it in the faces of children, some are angry, some are not. We need to take care of our children.

Too many parents don’t care. Some teachers don’t care. That will carry in their character.

For me, saying I love my children is never enough. Love is the starting point. If it does not happen in the family, we should express it. Love is like water… like nutrition.

That is how my parents raise me and that is what I believe.”

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SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 287: “Simple Solitary And Intelligent”

Wherever I travelith… 365 travelith. And with my daughter in hand, tonight is no exception. It’s outdoor movie night at CSUN (California State University Northridge), and with it, our befriending way of life is simply part of our family ritual. One byproduct of 365 that I will always cherish is the positive influence it has had on my family. Sure at times it can feel burdensome.

“Great! Dad has the camera again;” or, “Should we start dinner without you?” Even the occasional resentment from any of us as I drop household responsibilities in priority to 365.

But you know what? At the end of the day, we all feel better about the world we live in, and are gaining a greater empathy and understanding for our fellow human beings. And that is worth all the gold in the world to us.

So tonight, with blankets, popcorn and camera in hand, my girl and I seek open grass in setting camp in wait of this evenings feature, “Despicable Me.”

Spot found, blankets spread and strawberry lemonade purchased, I ask the question, “Should we find our 365 friend?”

“Can we go play the game first, daddy?” my favorite girl responds.

There is no way I will let this moment pass, and after a few beanbag tosses and the consumption of character painted Twinkies, we sugar rush away from the activities. As we do, we come across our very intellectual and grounded man of the hour, stranger now friend, Lindsay, who in leaving the university library has decided to enjoy an evening of big screen animation.

In contrast to the surrealistic entertainment we are about to screen, Lindsay proclaims of a more realistic source of enlightenment.

“I’m building a website he introduces, it’s called simplesolitaryintellegent.com, and it mirrors my outlook on life.”

I checked it out and as Lindsay states, it is very much in it’s infancy of development. But young in mind or underdeveloped is not of Lindsay’s makeup, his words are impactful.

“It’s the people who are forgotten in their time who become memorable. You know, like Van Gogh, he was in an insane asylum. Their were prophets not recognized at their time…Jesus for one. And that’s what I’m trying to do.”

Lindsay is not claiming he is a self-proclaimed prophet, and absolutely is not touting himself as a Christ. What he is suggesting is that we open our minds to the greater light of reflection. He calls it, “Simple Solitary and Intelligence,” stating, “That is where it all comes from.

There are sayings: To thine own self be true… If a man can’t get along with himself, he can’t get along with others. Simple Solitary and Intelligence… That is where it all starts.”

Lindsay advises us to do what we can to keep our mind clear and uncluttered, “I try to avoid the news of the day, and too many topical things. I devote myself to intelligence in trying to gain wisdom. And, that’s what I want to promote.”

I call Lindsay realistic and enlightened, a set of titles that I am motivated to place after hearing his perspectives on what’s in store for humanity.

“In the immediate future… The next generation… times will be grim. I think America is on the descent… on the decline. Other powers will ascend, and they are not going to have any sympathy for us.” He excuses himself as he points to my daughter, “Sorry to say that.”

“No worries,” I assure him, knowing that for a nine-year old, my daughters value system and faithful outlook on the world she is approaching gives her the strength to decipher concepts with maturity beyond her years.

I know… I rather hokey and fatherly statement, and I tell you what; I have no idea of where she gets her wisdom. I guess there must have been a very enlightened Radstone century’s ago, and somehow their recessive gene has passed on to my daughter.

Lindsay quotes a source. “I remember a Nobel-laureate economist, Franco Modigliani. Thirty years ago I heard him. He was saying things are not going to be good for the coming generation. In my case he was correct. So I think more of what he said is in store for America’s future.

But for humanity… if people could be more appreciative of intelligence… if they could apply themselves to living intelligently, so that the larger problems have their roots in simple human needs…? The whole world would evolve toward greater peace and happiness.”

Simple Solitary and Intelligent… Lindsay titles it.

With it he calls us to accountability in pondering not only our own existence, but of the existence to come. And looking at my little girl, who has been patiently participation in today’s interview, I can only have one conclusion. Or better yet, a concerned prayer… “That we will all see the light and be willing to do the works to assure a better future for the children’s sake.”

I’ll jump of my metaphoric soapbox for the moment…. I’ve got a movie to catch… Roll the film.

Talk tomorrow my friends.

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SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 286: “Art Makes My Life Happy”

My day has been rocked by kindness, power and trust in meeting today’s friend, engineer, businessman, husband, son, father and artist, Puzant.

“’I’m Armenian, born in Syria. When I was young I wanted to be an artist after high school. I studied art in Venice, Italy, and one day my father wrote me a letter after one year of study, he said, ‘My son, you’ll be a starving artist.’ I changed my subject and studied engineering.’”

As Puzant reveals this part of his history I get my initial impression of my new friend. It’s in his eyes. For in them is seen compassion towards people and an obvious love for family blazes a capturing blend of softness and wisdom hard-earned.

“’I did well… I was pretty successful, I did not do art at all. I listened to my father’s advice… ‘Starving artist.’

Then I worked, opened a service station… I opened a garage… Then I was successful… I was very successful as a matter of fact.

I bought some land… some shops… I was OK… Right here.’”

Puzant divulges his key to success.

“Self-confidence is an important part of life… Know what you are doing.”

Yeah. Easy to say, we here it… But, by the sound of it, it looks like Puzant was provided for (well, not really). But what about us who are being persecuted, or are living in deep burden?

Trust me, I’m not pointing a finger to make any of us feel bad, or trying to be a martyr, or even the dude standing on the hill with meaningless positive affirmations. That would be so contrary to real life and the world we are living in.

The fact is, as amazing as the planet and its people can be, it is equally pressed by human acts that are terribly atrocious to absorb, let alone navigate through.

And if you are deep under the pains of the hands of oppression, perhaps Puzant’s history can shed some light and a glimmer of hope.

Sure Puzant is successful by the world’s standards. He has lived a long life, has earned a measure of success and now after eighty-years is proud to say; “I am now an artist…”

I ask Puzant about the future; yet, with the wisdom of a spiritually fed philosopher, Puzant parables the future to citing from his past.

“Every man has his own heritage… no matter what you do… you cannot take me out of my heritage and I cannot take you out of your heritage.

That is how we can go forward… We need to modernize our heritage.

Like my sculpture today… it is different than what it used to be twenty-years ago… It is more modern… It is more reflective.”

More modern… more reflective, Puzant defines a life perspective – a perspective that has not been easily gained.

“When I look back twenty… thirty years, I saw many changes in my life, but they are good changes in my life,” Puzant channels to the depth of compassion that I earlier mentioned.

“The changes that I got from my heritage as an Armenian. They massacred us… 1.5 million… and that stayed in my blood. The Turks forced us from our homeland.”

My father escaped from the massacres… he survived. My mother survived.”

Puzant’s speak of heritage, and with tears in eyes, he opens up a deeper wound, “Bad things happen in our life…” (Eye’s welling up)… Long pause… “When your father tells you that there were seven sisters and brothers killed and he was the survivor…” (The conversation becomes silent).

Puzant has experienced pain, pain that even tough he has found a place of peace and balance in life, is still part of his emotional and historical DNA. In his tears it is evident that his path has not been an easy one. And in his powerfully peaceful countenance, it is manifest that his love for family and values in respecting his heritage is well deserved.

I ask Puzant what he can share with those who are casting any judgment.

“Advice…? I hope it never happens again. Now we have the United Nations as a referee of the world. They have to say what is right or what is wrong. Not like before the first world war, 1918, 1916, 1910.”

And to support his global dream Puzant directs us towards ourselves, “I don’t know what the future is… We’re living a life that day after day we modernize ourselves.

Every day we have a new concept… a new way of doing things. That is the modernization.

I’m eighty; it is not easy to stay healthy in this country. Smog, eating, the way of life here… where fifty to sixty percent of American’s are overweigh and not healthy.”

Puzant has granted us a gamut of perspectives, from historical awareness of the lowest moments of mankind, to the courage to stay true to dreams while managing responsibilities, to advice on both physical and spiritual health, he has lifted our eyes.

“If there is one thing I’ve grown to understand…” Puzant departs, …Success does not come with money… of course it helps.

“And for now… Art makes my life happy”

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SideWalk Ghosts / Interview 285: “Ik Onkar (Gurmukhi)”

On the Western front of the Famous Route 66 lies the California coastline. Route 66… 2448 miles of changing pavement and dirt, that since 1926 it has reigned strong as an iconic starting / stopping point (all depends on the direction of your travel) for a driving journey of grand proportion.

And standing as a pinnacle marker is the end of the trail sign that stands… welcoming… above the Santa Monica Pier, famous for not only it’s fun in the sun attitude, but for its magnetism in marking one of the greatest melting pots of ethnic and cultural diversity in all of Southern California.

For this reason I have chosen this spot for our exploration this afternoon.

I walk the pier, and as expected… I am overwhelmed.

Men, women, couples and families of every age, faith, ethnicity and language scurry around in a bliss of summer fun. Restaurants, games, rides, storefronts and consumption of colorful food are all common agenda’s.

Yet, amidst the storm of activity I see a united people, a macro view of what things could be. So I stand quite, in the center of the thunder of sound and movement… observing and listening…

…Thousands of individual people… Thousands of stories… Thousands of smiles… And thousands of brief moments of stranger interacting with stranger. In basic terms, a global society slammed together in a confined area. That in itself could bring the worst out of a situation… But today it does not. All are on vacation or an escape of some type or another… I’m sure.

I have to ask, “Why does it take leisure to break down the barriers we all put up?”

I’ll tell you, I’m blank for a response. It is beyond me to figure. Maybe it’s stress relief, or living out a fantasy. Perhaps the kindness is evoked by the overwhelming count of activities or by the distance from the expectations of home communities.

Whatever it is, “Why does it happen to a lesser occurrence in our everyday lives?

Like I said, I’m blank for a response. The reason escapes me.

So I meander to the end of the pier… still looking… still pausing… still listening.

In a way, I begin to find myself on sensory overload. Not via fear, not by distraction, and surely not through any self-cast profiling. But driven by my mind heavily questing to know its neighbors. Amidst the deafening sound of diversity, it screams like it’s internal voice, “I want to know who these people are!”

The only way to explain it, “A restlessness to understand…” To know the names, the stories and the wisdom’s of all those are surrounding me this day. An impossible task for one man, but a task that united we can mirror as a whole. And this thought is pouring like an unstoppable river into my brain as I explore the vastness of the faces that pass on every side of me.

Absolutely, there is no way I can befriend all on the pier. That would not only be pompous, but a superhuman initiative far beyond my ability. But what I can do is open my mind to an awareness of the humanity that I so casually stroll through this day. And in that, challenge myself to be receptive to whatever, or whomever I do engage with.

It’s a funny thing how at times the Universe listens to us. The louder the crowd gets… the more silent my thoughts become, and at the instant of my deepest release of quest, I hear the sound of laughter growing, “Will you take our photo?” creeps through the laughs.

I focus my attention, and before me stands two remarkable individuals, Kanwarpal and his brother-in-law Amandeep. I am smitten by their joy… and something about these two gentlemen is enlightening.

Kanwarpal has two points to living a fulfilled life, and by the happiness the glows from him, it is apparent that he lives by his words.

“Don’t ever do anything that causes you to lose your smile… and don’t ever regret anytime in your life… anything that even once made you smile.”

Amandeep adds his take, “’Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t observe a person for what you see. The phrase, ‘Don’t judge a person by their cover.’ Realize and recognize everyone else.’”

The fact alone that Kanwarpal and Amandeep are wearing turbans and beards would be cause for many to profile. The fact is that they are together on a touring excursion for Amandeep whom is about to marry Kanawarpal’s sister. That is why they are on the pier.

Neither are from any radical cell, or have any agenda other than the love their neighbors. A view that is at the very core of the value system that they adhere. So much so that the main direction of their lives is working with youth; something that both of these fine men dedicate much of their time to.

Further both are American citizens, engaging with the society that surrounds them and bottom line, are wonderful contributors to the world.

Amandeep hails from California and Kanwarpal is visiting from Maryland tell me, “We are Sikh and believe we all share a common God, We have a saying Ik Onkar (Gurmukhi), meaning God is one…” Amandeep explains… “It does not matter what color your skin is, we are all in one place… any religion…

…We should live life to the fullest, treat other people fairly, be fearful of God, and know that everybody is going to the same place.

As Sikh’s we make sure our arms and our hands are always open to everyone else.

That’s why we are here.”

Kanwarpal elaborates,

“We are not from any radical group, our turbans and our beards are like uniforms. Only they are not like the uniforms of command. They are to let people know of our beliefs and a symbol of our respect and of our values. When you see us, you know we are here to help each other and others, not to hurt one another.”

Amandeep talks of the future, “90% of the time whatever you hear on the news you have to take it with a grain of salt.

I’m hoping that everybody starts taking a healthier approach to life; that we start looking not only within ourselves, but overall, towards our community. Lending a hand where we can. Making sure that we are physically fit, so that the overall diseases as far as diabetes, cardio vascular and all that, they decrease. But at the same time looking to make the earth a more pleasant place to stay. Cutting down on the smog and everything else. Because we’re still young we want to make sure that our planet is safe for our kids and our grand kids and their kids. That’s what I’m hoping for. Will that every happen within our lifetime… I hope so.”

Kanwarpal looks ahead, “We are going to become more aware. Right now too many are about me, I’m doing this… this is about me. That is going to start approaching to we and our. Technology helps to that point. But also I see that everyone is on they’re mobile phones and Facebook and Twitter. It’s just a phase. It is only doing its part to get people connected around the world. But I think that is going to fall down and then the real synergy is going to start-up.”

I know now why the noise was broken by the sounds of laughter. And even though I meet my new friends, Amandeep and Kanwarpal, through the invite of a smile, lighthearted they are not. For on the end of a busy tourist pier, and within the endless movement of humanity in vacation mode, I find a temple of sorts.

A temple not of brick and mortar construct, but a sanctuary of worship to a higher power. Non-the-less; a power that through the unconditional friendship of two kind gentleman has transformed my afternoon.

Who would have ever have conceived that in the fast pace of amusement park ambience that the quietest of subjects could be discussed?

We are truly all in this thing together. And in the word of our two new friends of great wisdom, I can only quote, Ik Onkar (Gurmukhi).

Talk tomorrow my friends.

SideWalk Ghosts/ Interview 282: “Nice Hat!”

The world is an awesome planet. I’m driving down the street and when arriving at a stop sign I notice the gentleman in the vehicle next to me is wearing a fedora that is much similar to the one I’m wearing. But even more appreciated is the warm greeting he gestures with the tip of his hat, and rolling down his window, he compliments, “Nice Hat!”

Right then and there I know this is a true neighbor of life and that it is important that we meet this man. We have a very brief car-to-car discussion and within minutes we find ourselves parked in the little baseball field just off the busy street where we first met.

It is unsolicited gesture of kindness like this that proves to me that humankind has the potential to become a gregarious and loving people, a premise that 365 has burned deeply into both my mind and heart.

Not saying that we are on path to be a global government or homogenized society. For our diversity is what makes us rich and magnificently unique. What I am say is this, that in our own communities or in our travels, do we view one another we love and acceptance, without preconceived notions of the negative, but with optimism is seeking our similarities as species human.

And tonight as I aimlessly drive, an unknown friend has done just that, reduced the size of our community with the simplest of gestures, a hat tip and a smile. And as minute as it may seem, the humble acknowledgement has brightened my day more than I can accurately express.

I’m on the receiving side of kindness today, and to tell you the truth, I needed to be here today. It is for this reason I write this with the utmost gratitude and honor for my new friends: Rom, his daughter Anne, son Tom and their young friend Yoadd.

I love this project, it has been a life changer for me; and, my dreams it that it is the same for you. It’s about real everyday people with real-life concerns and experiences. My hope is that from it none of us will ever look at the world the same.

Rom and his children are very a family, and have proven again to us the power within the realms of caring for our neighbors. Their enthusiasm for life and love of the world is evident not only in their countenance but in their literal words.

I’ve coined a phrase, “The silent majority.” In it I am referring to us, the everyday people. For after speaking with so many strangers turned friends, I am realizing that the greater population of us, “real-people,” are all saying the same thing. “We want to get along, be loved and respected for who we are and desire to know that the children will have a safe world to live in. A world with less oppression, less governmental control, and the opportunity to safely live, love and worship, as we desire. Trust me I am not trying to get political, but I just found a quote from the late Ronald Reagan. Whether you approve of his late administration or not, his thought strikes resonance. He stated this, “Government’s first duty is to protect the people, not run their lives.”

Call it a dream or not, but we are the silent majority, and we have the power to build our communities into loving safe havens. It takes not much to be effective in uplifting each other, like for me this evening. I was a little down, but through the tip of a hat from an unknown man my life became much richer. The lesson is there to be learned, and the tuition is free to all. The fee…? Only a sincere smile and a warm heart towards our neighbors. My hope, that we all receive our Master’s degree from the University of Planet Earth (UPH).

Let class begin!

Youthful Instructor Anne takes the podium.

“At school I’m part of the recycling club, and I want to tell everyone to go green.”

She describes her definition of world, “It’s called a community.” Out of the mouths of the children. We have to ask ourselves in checking our outlooks on the youth: Who is the wiser? The old… or the young? And are we listening?

Professor Tom addresses the student body.

“Always stay positive and be happy about what you have, because if everyone becomes negative… then neighbor will turn on neighbor, and the world won’t be a happy place.”

Dean Ram sets the tone for his faculty and all visiting students.

“We should never prejudge anyone, not by color, not religion, not by where we come from. Just be good people, the rest will come from self.”

Visiting student, family friend Yoadd contributes to the curriculum.

“Everyone should be happy with one another. Live life to it’s extreme because it is short… and kind of fun.”

Four distinct views, four sets of suggestions for us all to consider and four lists of concerns and advice that has become a constant within the over 1000 people who have conversed with us in 365.

We shift to the future in part two of our educational workshop.

Again instructor Anne starts the ball rolling.

“The word war will go away and everyone in the world will come together as one big family, and they will notice that no matter how someone looks or is, as long as they respect you and you respect them, we can all be like one family.”

Professor Tom concurs.

“How you look and what you do now will be less important. People will be more thinking about what you do for the whole world, not as much how important you are, but how important you are to everyone else.”

Ram looks at his faculty with loving eyes, but grounds them with a challenging mountain to overcome.

“I’m really, really scared about the level of communication between people. As of today: I love you, I miss you, I need you, is gone. Everything is texting, everything is computerized and the feelings, the emotions, are dissipating from the world. Everything is very technical and I’m really, really scared. I think in ten years it is going to be much worse. I’m afraid parents will not communicate with their kids, kids will not communicate with their friends. They barely do today. Honestly, I think it is going to get worse.”

Instructor Anne contributes to the dean’s comments.

“I see it two ways… Technology, it could be a good thing and a bad thing, like my dad said, people will talk to each other less. Like on their computer or iPad or something. That’s what makes their life… and their life evolves around that.

It is also good for contacting someone or finding someone. We are definitely going to go more green and technology will help that.

But if life totally revolves around your phone or your computer or something like that, that will mess up your life.”

Visiting student Yoadd queues in on the environment.

“Technology will definitely be more advanced, especially when it comes to saving the planet and going green.”

Something is going on right at UPH. And I must credit Dean Ram for his leadership and example to us all. Its youthful faculty is on fire in training itself, and I hope us, to be active in working towards a better future while strengthening our existing communities. Through their example and words today, I know one thing first hand.

I was tired, I was missing being home with my family and I was clueless as to where to journey to meet a friend. And at the particular moment that I let go of my self-control in submitting to whatever is to come, a hat is tipped to me. Call it fate, call it coincidence or call it anything you wish.

Whatever the cause… and trying to not be selfish, I must say, THANK YOU to my new friends, our well has been filled.

For who knew that in the parking lot of a quite little baseball in the burbs of the San Fernando Valley, I would encounter the wisdom of future leaders and the man who is planting the seeds.

And best of all, UPH is open registration with no limits to enrollment. Better yet, it courses are self-created and at will to your development. Consider today the day of orientation and with you at the center of the lecture hall, UPH permissions you, without any limitations, to open your own annex campus wherever you are.

Good luck class of 2012, we are with you.

Lest we never forget, “We are in this thing together.”